Day 68 after the event

Today I went to the little one nursery for his second term progress assessment and feedback. I was not planning to attend to it as I felt that there should not be issues for the little one as he is smiling, playing and jumping all the while. At 11am, I decided to turn up for meeting the little one class teacher. To my shock, I was informed that the little one cried at the nursery for losing his mother... All these while, he has not been crying for the loss nor talking about the incident. I did not realize that there is already an impact to him that I did not notice. I was also informed that the little started ignoring the direction from teachers and doing badly on his works. These were in total contrast difference before the incident. The teaher also informed that the little one sometimes would be quiet at a corner and had his head buried in his arms with sadly faces. The teachers believed that he missed his mother...
I failed. I had failed for not noticing his character change. I did not aware that the little one has felt the loss but not mention to me. I believed they had seen me crying for their mother and these had shocked them seeing me crying. I was not sensitive. I failed...

1 comments:

Steve Lam said...

Stay cool. You must acknowledge that kids' mentality will be influenced greatly by the surrounding, especially the father.

You have to control your emotions. You can choose to be happy or sad. Please don't choose to be sad in front of your kids.

And also be patient. How they are being shaped up will depend on you.

I notice your kids don't dare to give a heart talk to you. They know, but they just keep in their heart and try to solve the problem themselves. But poor them, they are just kids.

As a father, you must provide security to kids.

Much more attention needs to be paid to them.

Let me know if you need help.

November 12, 2008 at 1:15 PM