In loving memory of my beloved wife

Today is the "official day" for "Cheng Meng". Cheng Meng is day where most Chinese will pay a respect to the ancestor by visiting to the cementery with some "offering". Most commonly the offering comes in shape of paper-made "gadgets" which could be in the form of "money, handphone, car, video... etc" which Chinese believed that after burning off these offering, the ancestors will be able to utilize such gadgets as needed at another "world". I always reject the idea of such gadget offering as I find this is a kind of tradition which Chinese needs to abandon with. At maximum, I will only agree that to burn those traditional papers. And that's all.

This year, I brought two of my sons together and my elder son poped up with a statement which I find difficult to answer with. He asked that why our ancestor's cementery is so common appearance look as compare to the two close neighbours of "well built cementery"I find it difficult to answer simply because I find that even youngster like him (in the age of 10) is already embedded with the idea of cosmetic appearance appraisal... I find myself failed in providing my kids the basic understanding of basic.

Is this an indication of materialistic world of present society?
Is this a sight of judging the book by its cover?