In loving memory of my beloved wife

I once attended a two-day course on situation leadership. It discussed about the differences in responses of our reactions at different situation, position or roles you are playing. Although you are the same person, but because you are acting and representing different roles, the response to a similar issue or question will defer. It will be different in actions when you are a "si-manja" trying to get attention as compare to when you are a "big brother" who give directions

If you are acting the same way as you do in previous model, basically you are demonstrating an pre-mature reaction or protraiting that you are not ready to coach, to guide or to lead. A "si-manja" can manja and "boycott" or walk out of a discussion if there is something that is not favorable to the si-manja or its believes. A big brother well, will definitely cannot just follow suit with walk away as a form of protest or phone all friends to follow the big brother to have a boycott. No matter what or how bad the big brother could not agree, the big brother need to stay calm and demonstrate that he is indeed mature and managing the situation well and controlling the response.

When you are just a small company owner, you can call for boycott and close your company door so as not to trade with so and so. When you grow bigger and actually have a lot of subsidiaries, associates or franchises, you will unlikely want to easily call for a boycott due to a unfavorable trade practise by one of your suppliers or customers. You are not only causing a loss of income to your own company but the rest are affected and will definitely have another thoughts on you. You cannot act on emotionally. It is a different kind of games now.

People are looking at you. What you did previously can no longer be used. Prepare yourself psychological and practically. You are leading now. You do not need to get another attention. You are already the attention of people on what and how you handle the issue